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Julia
01-24-2003, 06:25 AM
My poor writing should not be in the Gallery, but this thread is for special pets and the humans who love them. Please post pictures, stories, poems, etc.; anything to share your pet and/or how the unconditional love of a special pet enriches a person's life.

This one is for Tama. I wrote this about 6 months ago because I knew I wouldn't be able to write it now.
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Time to say, “Goodbye, baby.” Thank you for being such a wonderful friend.
I love you, Tama.

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R.I.P. Tama Marie: February 1985 – January 21, 2003
TAMA MARIE
I have a friend that has been by my side for 17 1/2 years; more than half of my life. She has been right here with me through every life experience from age 17 through 34: First love, death of first love, living alone, getting married, having a child, several moves, more deaths, more births...

Many people have come and gone, but this friend is still here with me.

For a little while longer, at least…

My friend's name is Tama and she is a little, black, terrier-looking, "mixed breed" dog. Her grandmother was a brown Heinz 57 dog but Tama's mother was bigger, all black, and looked like she had (at least) a decent amount of lab in her (really, I promise). Tama was the cutest, little 4-week-old black puppy. SHE wasn't even weaned yet, but WE were sure she would grow up to be our big, black lab.

WE were two slightly rebellious, dangerously naive, lovestruck teenagers exploring the country in a blue, Chevy van. Somewhere near Dallas, he surprised me with the gift of a puppy to share in our adventures. We named her after TAMA drums because he was a drummer.

What stupid kids. Stupid but completely HAPPY and FREE, and blissfully IGNORANT of the TOUGH lessons ahead.

Tama quickly learned to eat fast food hamburgers. She was van-trained before she was house-trained. ("Me and you and a dog named Tama. Travelin' and livin' in van.")

After the Van Adventures, Tama would ride with us on the motorcycle, all zipped up in my black leather jacket, just her little black nose poking out to greedily inhale all the city smells flying by. Our Moto-Mutt.

She was such a cool puppy. She was so cute and so smart and had such a great personality that everybody fell in love with her. Some lowlife acquaintances actually ABDUCTED her and changed her name to Mindy. After a successful rescue operation from the evil dognappers, our Tamadog was safely back in her happy home. ("Our house, is a very, very, very fine house. With Tama in the yard. Life used to be so hard. Now everything is easy 'cause of you.")

When we moved from sub-tropical Houston to the Sonoran desert of Arizona, Tama had to adjust to desert-living. It was days before she gave up hoping to find just a single blade of soft grass that she could pee on. We thought she might explode before she resorted to peeing on that dirty, desert dirt. Now she is a well-seasoned desert dog and any patch of sandy, rocky, crunchy-weed-like stuff will do. And it only took one afternoon spent pulling cactus needles out of her feet, legs, and mouth, for her to learn to stay way away from those things. She is a very smart dog.

The desert had lots of new creatures for Tama to play with: rabbits, ground squirrels, coyotes, rattlesnakes, tarantulas, some kind of horned toad, javalinas, mountain goats, cows, skunks. She met each of them at one time or another. Ever been camping in a tent with a dog who decided to try to make friends with a skunk? It's lovely... Sometimes Tama is a little too friendly.

If we came across cows in the road, little Tama would try to herd them. When she chased rabbits through the desert, she would bounce over the cacti just like the rabbits. She would chase the ground squirrels into their holes and furiously dig and dig until her head and shoulders were completely in the hole. She actually caught one once, then didn't know what the heck to do with it. Silly dog.

If Tama could still hear, there is one word that would be a cruel tease and would snap her to attention. "Beer." Tama LOVED beer. Especially Budweiser. She used to TELL people, with her eyes, that she wanted their beer. She would sit in front of them and intently glare at their eyes, their beer, their eyes, their beer, their eyes, their beer, etc., until they gave her a drink. It was so obvious what she wanted. (Beers left on the floor were fair game.) I quit letting people give her beer many years ago, though. I have learned so much since then.

When I found out that my love had secretly become addicted to a deadly drug, Tama was the only friend I could talk to. When we argued, she would bark until we stopped. She was always on my lap when I cried. When I was left alone, worrying about him and afraid of being alone at night for the first time in my life, Tama was there to protect and guard me.

The phone call telling me my love was in the hospital: Tama was there. When I came home from the hospital, after holding his hand while his heart stopped: Tama was there. I KNEW she knew. She must have smelled it. She WAS his dog, too; she was ours. Driving all over the country (by myself, this time) searching for someone I knew I would not find: Tama was with me every mile.

THAT was over 14 years ago. If I didn't have the responsibility to take care of her then, I don't think I would be here to tell the rest of the story. We needed each other.

Since then, life kept going and my best friend has been with me through everything. She was there when I met my (then) future husband and she has been here for 11 happy anniversaries. While I was pregnant, she would lie on my ever-expanding belly until the baby started kicking her off. When I came home from the hospital, this time with a new baby, she would lie near his crib. She was the only one with me when I called 911 because the baby stopped breathing one night at 6 weeks old. She has been here for all 10 (now 11) of his birthdays. They love her as much as I do; she is our dog.

Now she is old, but you couldn't tell by looking at her. The only thing she can hear is when I loudly clap my hands together. She can still see a little, but she is very far-sighted. She can't see anything right in front of her face, but she can see me across the room. Her hips give out on her so she has a hard time getting up.

But today she still seems happy. She still likes to play a little, her eyes still light up and she still wags her tail a lot, and she loves to eat. She is the energizer dog. She just keeps going and going.

I know I will have to say goodbye to my friend very soon. I just hope I gave her the very best life she could possibly have. I would not have made it through this half of my life without her; I'm not certain how I will continue when she is gone. I know I will not let her suffer, but I hope I have the strength to know when to let her go. She deserves the best.

She is the best.
7/30/2002

Persephone
01-24-2003, 06:58 AM
This is beautiful, Julia. I'm sorry for your loss.

01-24-2003, 07:40 AM
Damn!! :'(

Julia
01-24-2003, 09:20 AM
Thanks. I know both of y'all are pet people. Some people get it, and some people think it's just an animal, ya know?

I hope it doesn't seem like I was looking for a sympathy thread, though. It's more of a thread to brag about some of the extra special ones. I hope maybe some others will share their pets here, too.
:)

jeny
01-24-2003, 09:24 AM
Julia, how beautiful , and sad.

I'm a pet person too. If I can scrounge up some kitty pics, I'll post them here.

Julia
01-24-2003, 09:36 AM
Jeny,

8)

I remember you saying that Alexa definately reacted to the kitty's purr when you were pregnant. (And isn't it funny how cats can sense pregnancy?)

My 9-month-old niece absolutely loves her kitty and spastic labrador doggie.

They're too cute.:D

jeny
01-24-2003, 09:59 AM
Jeny,

8)

I remember you saying that Alexa definately reacted to the kitty's purr when you were pregnant. (And isn't it funny how cats can sense pregnancy?)

My 9-month-old niece absolutely loves her kitty and spastic labrador doggie.

They're too cute.:D


Well, Alexa loves the cats. I'm not sure they return her affection though. When they walk by she gets all excited "kitty kitty kitty, tickle tickle tickle" It's really cute, but they run away...fast. :D

She did get swatted last week, but Baby Cat was nice enough to leave his claws IN his paw. But she cried like her heart was broken anyway. It was sort of her fault since she cornered the poor thing.

01-24-2003, 10:09 AM
Some people get it, and some people think it's just an animal, ya know?

Julia, what I found especially moving is the story of your life wrapped within the boundaries of a "friend" that you had taken on to love and to respect and to care for through thick and thin. To have GIVEN that much love and to have received that much love back is very special, indeed.

I have lost many pets in my life to various circumstances...some to illnesses, some to accidents, and some because they didn't "fit" in with my life. Was it the pet's fault or mine? I always accepted that responsibility as they were helpless to be anything other than what they were. I have only taken one dog to the pound...and that was because it was a killer of my other pets and it wasn't even my dog to begin with. It had been "dumped" on me, as are all five of the ones I am owned by now.

Right now, I am dominated with three very special Chihuahuas (all abandoned/lost), a Chow (abandoned) and a Pug (abandoned). None of them ask for anything but love. I give what I have to them. Mostly it is not enough for their hearts are bigger than they are. They all love each other and play constantly (when they aren't sleeping).

Long ago I hardened my heart to losing a pet because I just cannot deal with the pain...and even yet, when they are lost, I weep.

I know how deep your sadness is. There is nothing that can be said to replace that part of your soul.

LanceALott
01-24-2003, 10:47 AM
A BLACK CAT

With tears in my eye,
Found him dead,
Curled as if asleep,

Called him Blacky
Daughter said “He’s Halloween,
‘Cause of orange eyes and blackest fur ever seen.”

He came to our door,
A mere kitten.
Solid black coat and deep orange eyes.
Mellow, mild, in my lap while I sit,
Never hissed, spit, scratched, or bit.
Blacky my friend.

A stray,
Hair now gray.
Slept in the cold.

I’ll miss the gentle nudge,
His warm purr.
My friend, Halloween, was dear.

Now George cries day and night
Calling his lost companion home,
Home from the roam.
George is Siamese,
For years they cuddled in the cat house
In the cold.
Now George wonders where’d his brother go,
And who will warm him in the snow.

Halloween’s body’s cold and hollow now.
But if there is a cat heaven,
The cat that never bit,
Made it.

Persephone
01-24-2003, 01:49 PM
Pet people? Me and bad? I don't know why you would say that. Between the two of us, we only have nine pets. :o

They are so special, each in their own way, aren't they? You should hear bad tell about Binky warming his foot. It will melt your heart. At least it worked on me.

Of the ones I have right now, I got Mowgli first. He was a little scrawny, half-starved kitten who showed up on my doorstep on Christmas Eve one year. I opened the door, and he walked right in, went straight to my bed and curled up and went to sleep. He is still a little kitten to me even though he is four years old and a holy terror.

Then there is Callie who lived in the alley behind an apartment complex I used to live in. Of the cats who lived there, she was the only one who didn't test positive for FIV, so of course I had to bring her inside. She trusts no human but me, but she has her little routine worked out. Every night when the lights are turned out she comes and says goodnight to me by rubbing against me and purring. Then she goes off to check the house for whatever it is she checks the house for.

Corky and Phoebe a friend of mine just brought to my house one day. She had found them in a kennel, neglected to the point of abuse. I was supposed to keep them until she found homes for them, but that was more than two years ago. They are mine now. At least Corky is. My mother has grown attached to Phoebe, so she spends most of the time visiting "Grandmother" now. She is home right now, but she is spending all of her time prancing around with her nose up in the air and hissing at the other cats. She has discovered that she is "special."

Corky has always refused to believe he is anything but special. He insists on constant attention and will dart from one end of the house to the other if he even suspects that another cat is being petted. In which case, he must intervene. All pets are meant for him.

I don't know what I'd do without them. There is never a time when I walk into my house at the end of the day when I am not greeted with such hopefulness and love that it is overwhelming. I don't even care if I have four cats and am in danger of being known as the "cat lady" of the neighborhood. :)

jeny
01-24-2003, 01:55 PM
Suth, your mowgli sounds like my cowboy. When we went to the pound to get a cat, we picked out Baby and were going to leave except we saw this little scrawny half dead furr ball all alone in a cage. Turns out, the mother had abandoned them, and he was the lone survivor of the litter. The lady at the pound was sure he was going to die because he wouldn't eat.

Well, I figured, what the hell, if he's gonna die, he can die at my house where he won't be alone.

Four years later, he is still my widdle pumpkin. Sleeps on my bed, loves me to death, purrs all the damn time. He's small, and he never lost that soft kitten furr. Oh, and he can't meow, poor thing. But he's healthy and happy. I never think of him as a cat, but as a kitten. He has the cutest little kitten snout. And he even let's the baby pet him if I hold him on my lap. Such a good boy. :D

Persephone
01-24-2003, 07:26 PM
Suth, your mowgli sounds like my cowboy. When we went to the pound to get a cat, we picked out Baby and were going to leave except we saw this little scrawny half dead furr ball all alone in a cage. Turns out, the mother had abandoned them, and he was the lone survivor of the litter. The lady at the pound was sure he was going to die because he wouldn't eat.

Well, I figured, what the hell, if he's gonna die, he can die at my house where he won't be alone.

Four years later, he is still my widdle pumpkin. Sleeps on my bed, loves me to death, purrs all the damn time. He's small, and he never lost that soft kitten furr. Oh, and he can't meow, poor thing. But he's healthy and happy. I never think of him as a cat, but as a kitten. He has the cutest little kitten snout. And he even let's the baby pet him if I hold him on my lap. Such a good boy. :D



Oh, yeah. Mowgli is my sweetie pie, though he is sort of like having a wild child in the house at times. He has trouble getting along with the other cats because he doesn't always understand that they don't want to be "loved" when he wants to bathe them and hump them and stuff. He is particularly unable to see that Phoebe does not care to be loved by him. Poor little guy. I think I had his balls chopped off when he was too young or something.

Julia
01-25-2003, 06:27 AM
Dear bad, Thank you so much for your very kind words. It is obvious that you are a true "dog person" so I know that you completely understand. And when you hear of someone else having to say goodbye to a special dog it probably brings back your own memories, so I'm sorry if I caused any pain to you. Despite the people who can't deal with your succinct honesty (and your shitty, fuckin' language :D), it didn't take me long to see why Suth loves you so much. You truly are one of the good guys. (I think dogs can "sense" that better than most people, too, ya know?)
Long ago I hardened my heart to losing a pet because I just cannot deal with the pain...and even yet, when they are lost, I weep.
My 11-year-old son asked me if this is the first time in his life that his dad has ever cried. After thinking about it for a minute, I realized that the answer was, "Yes."

We do have another dog. He is a foofy, little, gray and white shi-tzu that crawled under our gate one Sunday morning while we were sitting outside reading the newspaper. (My husband and I both have that "sucker smell." ::)) Somebody (probably some old person) obviously loved him. He was pretty old, recently groomed, and very spoiled because he would not eat dog food. I called him Hobo just so I wouldn't have to call him "Dog." We tried to find his home and owner, but no one ever claimed him. I never really wanted to keep him. He's too foofy, he needs to be groomed a lot, he snores like a damn freight train, and if he were a person, he would be riding around on the short bus.

But I knew that since he was old he probably wouldn't be adopted out, and I couldn't live with risking it. Then when Tama started losing her hearing, Hobo came in handy as her "hearing dog". She could still hear his bark, and she would follow his cues. He's sweet and cute and I would hate for anything bad to happen to him. But Tama was so much more than a "dog".

Anyway...thanks for sharing the special pets that currently own your home. Didn't you just recently "acquire" one of the Chihuahuas? I think I remember a thread where you were trying to figure out what to do with her. Is that Binky, the foot-warmer? :)

Persephone
01-25-2003, 06:39 AM
Binky is the Chihuahau he's had the longest. She owns him. Totally. Nobody holds a candle to Binky.

The one he started the thread about recently is Gidget. She is learning to let herself be loved. I don't think she is in any danger of being put out of the house. :)

Julia
01-25-2003, 06:47 AM
LanceALott, Thank you for posting the poem about your Blacky. He sounds like a wonderful cat. Poor George. :'(

Suth and Jeny, Thank you both for sharing your kitty stories. They all sound so different, and all so special. I'm kinda keeping my eyes open for a needy kitty to take in because I think it will be awhile before I am ready for a puppy.

Plus, my husband and I are trying to move to Hawaii. We knew we had to wait until Tama died because we didn't think she could make the move and/or the quarantine. :(

Julia
01-25-2003, 06:53 AM
Binky is the Chihuahau he's had the longest. She owns him. Totally. Nobody holds a candle to Binky.

The one he started the thread about recently is Gidget. She is learning to let herself be loved. I don't think she is in any danger of being put out of the house. :)


Binky... ;D...the name just cracks me up. I wonder if she a really big Chihuahau, or he has really small feet. :D

Persephone
01-25-2003, 06:55 AM
Binky is the Chihuahau he's had the longest. She owns him. Totally. Nobody holds a candle to Binky.

The one he started the thread about recently is Gidget. She is learning to let herself be loved. I don't think she is in any danger of being put out of the house. :)


Binky... ;D...the name just cracks me up. I wonder if she a really big Chihuahau, or he has really small feet. :D



She warms his "foot," singular. :)

Persephone
01-25-2003, 07:01 AM
LanceALott, Thank you for posting the poem about your Blacky. He sounds like a wonderful cat. Poor George. :'(

Suth and Jeny, Thank you both for sharing your kitty stories. They all sound so different, and all so special. I'm kinda keeping my eyes open for a needy kitty to take in because I think it will be awhile before I am ready for a puppy.

Plus, my husband and I are trying to move to Hawaii. We knew we had to wait until Tama died because we didn't think she could make the move and/or the quarantine. :(




I've had a couple of friends recently who've lost dogs they've had for a long time. It truly is a death in the family. I know a lot of people don't understand that.

I can understand the hesitation about moving an older dog. I've wondered what I would do about my cats if I moved. It would be crazy and somewhat masochistic to move four cats. But except for Phoebe going to my mother I couldn't really give them away. Callie and Corky are "special needs" cats. No one else would take care of them right. And Mowgli is my baby. I couldn't give him up.

01-25-2003, 07:28 AM
http://home.earthlink.net/~simpsonreporters/_uimages/BINKY.JPG

Binky

Persephone
01-25-2003, 07:40 AM
She looks pretty tough. Mowgli is probably three times her size, but I bet she could kick his ass. Most females do.

01-25-2003, 07:49 AM
She looks pretty tough. Mowgli is probably three times her size, but I bet she could kick his ass. Most females do.


See that white spot right behind her front shoulder blades? She has one on the other side, too. That's where her wings fell off when she came down from heaven.

You may resume vomiting now.

Persephone
01-25-2003, 07:54 AM
She looks pretty tough. Mowgli is probably three times her size, but I bet she could kick his ass. Most females do.


See that white spot right behind her front shoulder blades? She has one on the other side, too. That's where her wings fell off when she came down from heaven.

You may resume vomiting now.



Well, I would if I hadn't heard that so many times I've lost my gag reflex. :-* :-*

I've always known Binky was your first love.

wendy
01-26-2003, 01:06 PM
See that white spot right behind her front shoulder blades? She has one on the other side, too. That's where her wings fell off when she came down from heaven.

You may resume vomiting now.


Sambo was supposed to be fawn/white but ended up being more red. He has a spot behind each shoulder blade that is a very pale fawn. He MUST have had wings because he certainly is my guardian angel.

greginboise
01-27-2003, 11:44 AM
What a sad, touching story. It is the one downside of pets, and I feel for your loss. I have three dogs (miniature dachshund, beagle and lab/golden mix), and I dread the day(s) when I'll have to say "goodbye". Fortunately, they are all still young, but I do not want to go through the pain again. I swore I would never have any pets again, but here I am...